One Simple Tip to Make your Marriage Happy

Don’t lose HOPE! You can make your marriage happy!


Our mind and heart are funny things.

We can change our mind with each and every thought we hear or event we experience.  Our emotions are not necessarily the TRUTH.  Follow your heart is not good advice.  We know from the Bible that the heart is bound up in foolishness.  I can give real life credence to that truth.  I do not have to go any further than my own mind and heart to realize that I can be quite foolish.

It is with those truths in mind that I give you my simple tip to make marriage happy.  It is a simple tip.  However, I will warn you that it is not so simple to put into practice.  It will take prayer and much willpower.  You will have to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.  I do promise you it will be worth the effort!








In other words, always give your husband the benefit of the doubt. Now, here is the kicker!  Give your husband the benefit of the doubt even when you don’t think he deserves it.

For example, if you are in a situation where you feel betrayed, forgotten or ignored.  Remember to give your husband the benefit of the doubt.  I can guarantee you do not know all the reasons behind his actions.

Instead of becoming angry and hurt try to understand why he is behaving the way he is?  Is he under stress?  Is he not feeling well? Thinking about these questions will cause you to approach your husband in a caring manner that will increase the chances for good communication between the both of you.   After all, good communication is the hard to achieve the goal!


Each one of us is in charge of how we feel.  I know, I know this is not what you want to hear!

You can choose to be bitter or forgiving.

You can choose to be angry or understanding.

You can choose to be HAPPY!


My prayer is for you and me is that we will choose to Make our Marriage HAPPY!




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What marriage tip do you have for making your marriage a happy one?






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About The Author

Janelle Esker

Janelle Esker is the grateful wife of Michael and homeschooling mother of six amazing children. She lives with her family, 4 cats, 1 dog, 3 ducks and 12 chickens in scenic Ohio. Janelle received her B.A. in Education from Ohio Northern University. She is the author of CHOSEN: One Family’s Journey with Autism.


  1. Life Breath Present | 11th Sep 14

    Oh, how right you are about feelings not being facts and that we actually even have a choice when it comes to our feelings sometimes. I know this is one of those I have to remind myself of at times, and will even say out loud when I know I am or might be a bit too emotional about something. Being cognizant of one’s feelings and emotions within a relationship is so important because well, frankly, there’s another person to consider and not just ourselves. 🙂

    • Janelle Esker | 11th Sep 14

      Such words of wisdom you have written! I just LOVE that you say the truth out loud! Spoken word is so powerful. Thank you for taking the time to comment!

  2. Jeff Yackley | 15th Nov 14

    Not to be redundant, but I often cite John Hopler as having given some of the best marriage advice from Romans 7:22 – you know, the section where Paul is talking about not doing what he wants to do and doing what he doesn’t want to do… – “For in my inner being, I delight in God’s law” – that is to say, in my heart of hearts, I want to do what is right. Now here is the trick – believe that about your spouse – just like Janelle suggests! Miss you guys!

    • Janelle Esker | 15th Nov 14

      Thank you Jeff! I really appreciate you taking the time to post…and of course I totally agree:)

  3. Mandira Rai | 20th Sep 17

    Oh I so really needed to hear this at a moment when I was feeling so overwhelmed with the burden of being married. Thanks you for sharing this. God bless.

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