This post should be called Habits the good the bad and the ugly. Instead, I have named it Daily Habits That Are Causing You To Be Overwhelmed. The truth is that our habits inform who we are and who we will become. To put it simply, they are essential.
We can divide habit-making into several categories. There are habits of the mind, emotions, spiritual, social, and physical. Many of the actions people engage in daily—such as shopping, exercising (or not), and communicating with others—are habitual and thus can be difficult to change. A stunning 43% of everyday actions are enacted habitually while people are thinking about something else (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol. 83, No. 6, 2002).
I believe it is this distraction that leads to being overwhelmed. One of the best things you can do when forming new habits is to slow down and ask God through prayer to show you what you need to change or begin. Daily habits can become a joy bringing renewal and refreshment!
Daily Habits That Are Causing You To Be Overwhelmed
People Pleasing
Alas, this is a problem for me. Speaking plainly, the habit of people pleasing is destructive. I can become an idol and cause you to seek the approval of others over the approval of God. This is a dangerous business and causes real harm to the person God created you to be. Be yourself and ask God to free you from this habit. People pleasing is living a lie.
Minding Other People’s Business
Getting involved in other people’s drama sucks your energy and often leads to gossip which Scripture forbids. In my experience, people crave excitement and feeling important. Seeking these things is not always a problem, however, when you stick your nose in other people’s business you can become a “DO GOODER” and that at its heart is wrong.
Multitasking
Remember the days when everyone was touting the benefits of multitasking? Turns out it is bad for us, especially our brains. Multitasking is the opposite of focus. It only leads to distraction and stress. Time to stop this outdated habit.
Living In The Past
Focusing on past regrets instead of the present moment is a recipe for unhappiness. If you have perseverating thoughts that you just can’t let go of seek a professional Christian counselor. “Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. Isaiah 43: 18-19
Disorder
The word organized can cause people to panic. Let’s face it, sometimes organizing can be overwhelming and time-consuming. It doesn’t have to be that way though. Living with the disorder is way worse than making the time and giving your energy to organize your life. Taking small, slow, steps gives you the focus you need. Just one task at a time. Try decluttering a small corner of your house like a coffee table and see how much better you feel.
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The formation of habits is education,
and education is the formation of habits.
The mother who takes pains to endow her children
with good habits secures for herself smooth and easy days;
while she who lets their habits take care of
themselves has a weary life of endless
friction with the children.
–Charlotte Mason
YOUR TURN…
What makes you feel overwhelmed?
Peacefully Yours,
Janelle
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